Dating friends of your ex
Depending on the situation, it might either be a funny coincidence or something that could tear apart a friend group.Here are a few rules to keep in mind when trying to figure out whether it makes sense to start something up with your ex boyfriend's bro.Some reports indicate the relationship between the married couple was already over by the time Cowell moved in. While many details remain unknown, this revelation raises a question: Is your friend’s ex always off-limits?“If your friend is totally over his ex, has no romantic feelings for her, and wouldn’t mind being around the two of you socially, that could work,” muses Nina Atwood, author of “Temptations of the Single Girl.” “But look at all the conditions that have to be met!“If you decide to pursue the ex, you should be prepared to lose the friendship.“Most people are highly uncomfortable with these situations, so it’s best to look for love somewhere else,” she adds.“Even if the two of them have split, emotions take a while to heal, so it’s unlikely that the friend is going to be okay with it.” But not all relationship experts see it this way.“It’s ok to move in if they are estranged and no longer in love and divorcing,” says matchmaker Marla Martenson. It could be right under your nose, and circumstances have to shift for things to evolve.” As Martenson points out, “It’s a delicate situation, but why let a potential love match get away?
“The only time it might be okay is if your friend has moved on to another relationship,” she says.If you do decide to pursue a friends’ ex, be prepared for the potential for some major fall-out.“You should avoid this whole scenario unless you feel very strongly that your friend’s ex is your ultimate soul mate,” says Atwood.“Now more than ever we need to be good and kind to each other and not judge each other,” she adds.“And just because you have the same taste in men, we don’t hold that against each other.” That’s a pretty progressive point of view — and not necessarily one exclusive to celebs who move in A-list social circles.